People Pleasing and the Search for Safety People pleasing is often talked about as a bad habit or a personality flaw. But when you look at it more closely, it begins to make sense. From a psychological perspective, people pleasing is often rooted in attachment and the need for security. For many people, people pleasing […]
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How Anxious and Avoidant Partners Both Seek Safety
How Anxious and Avoidant Partners Both Seek Safety Many people feel confused when their partner responds to stress in a completely different way. One person reaches out and wants closeness. The other pulls away and wants space. It is easy to think this means one person cares more than the other, but often both people […]
When You Feel Like You’re Holding the Relationship Together
When You Feel Like You’re Holding the Relationship Together Many people who lean anxious in relationships carry a quiet fear. They feel that if they stopped putting in all the work, the relationship wouldn’t stand. This is not a dramatic thought. It comes from years of experience and from the feeling of being the one […]